Everything I know about online dating I learned on a fishing boat. It all happened the first time I tried fishing -- literally. The reality of what it took to catch the right fish was quite an eye-opener. Four hours later, as the boat returned to the dock, followed by screaming seagulls and eager for the leftover bait, I had a new, more patient and more positive attitude towards online dating. After I share my story, I hope you will too. Why were these fishing lessons even necessary, for me and for you?
Well, it stems from my observation that many of us seem to have an infinite capacity for punishing ourselves. When things do not go our way, we pretty much take it out on ourselves.
Have you ever told yourself you were an idiot, a moron, a jerk, or a loser? If you say you never have -- well, you're probably lying. Like most of us I've done it and chances are so have you. Hey, those words are just a few of the NICER things people say about themselves when they're feeling discouraged. Sometimes they even say it aloud! Sadly, this often shows up dramatically with online
Catch your fish dating, and across all ages and stages, not just in later years.
But in later years we seem to have a greater capacity for blaming our aging bodies and minds for what we perceive as rejection. Which it often is not; though sometimes it is. And so what if it is!
You do as much rejecting as the next guy or gal; why take it personally? In truth, it is not personal. Even if you went on one "interview" date and the person you thought you really, really liked disappeared, it is more a reflection on him or her than on you.