Five guys, ages 20 — 30, opened up about what goes through their minds before they hit send. Our panel of eligible male millennials: Names have been changed.
David, 20 Braden, 20 Cameron, 23 Ben, 27 Nate, Four out of five of the guys said yes, there are rules to texting. Ben, 27, thinks it goes beyond whether or not you send those monkey emojis: A lot of these rules are generated by society and pop culture, and dictate how we converse with one another. I think these rules are also reflective of the relationship you have with someone.
Ultimately, I think there is a general set of baseline rules that most people follow — like being polite, funny, respectful — and then the rest just falls into personal expectations. There was a clear divide here. You know pretty quickly if someone is into you or if you are into them. I have noticed over past years even females have been more aggressive in pursuit. Ben, 27, sheds more light on the appeal: I think everyone can agree that the more time and effort you put into someone, the more interested you are.
But being hard to get is definitely a game and. I think it totally depends on the type of person you are.
Ben, 27, wants a more creative conversation starter. We have a consensus here — everyone answered no. No surprises here — Weekday texts are more conversational, and are meant to serve as distractions while at work. They are also sober texts usually. Ben, 27, cautions the tipsy texters: Ben, 27, is our breath of fresh air. Anything that means they were thinking of me e. David, however, appears well-versed in it.
However, sometimes ghosting is the simple solution to an online dating match gone bad. Ben, 27, last ghosted a girl after a first [Tinder] date. Most of the panelists said yes, by accident — or yes, to not come off as eager.
Nate, however, knows better than to wait too long to reply to your text: To summarize the findings, here is the most important graph. Keep it thoughtful — If you were thinking about him, let him know.
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