Drawing down the moon hookup reviews car journeys with the roof down and weekends at country house hotels. Enjoys foreign films and is a member of the NFT. Hoping to meet a masculine but non-macho man who isn't a workaholic. You might wonder why a woman like this - intelligent, wealthy, fun, and who probably meets new people every week through work - needs to advertise through an introduction agency.
Yet she is just one of an estimatedBritons who use the agencies to seek the date of their dreams. But Mary Balfour, who runs it, says frantic modern life robs many of us of the time needed to find potential partners.
People tend "Drawing down the moon hookup reviews" work extremely long hours, and you can't date people at work if you're serious about your career,' Balfour says. She also believes we've generally become more idealistic.
Whereas marriage used to be predominantly an economic relationship, relying on the ability of the male to bring home the money and the woman to make it stretch - people are now more interested in looking for a partner, a lover and a friend. Money, in most cases, is now less important. Paying an introduction agency to find dates no longer has any stigma attached to it, according to Balfour. It simply makes most effective use of your time, improving your chances of meeting a like-minded person who is serious about forming a relationship.
Unfortunately, nothing in love is certain, particularly when it comes to introduction agencies. WhichIntro, an online guide to these services, says about 30 per cent of those listed on its website disappear every year.
It currently has active agencies on its books, but have closed since September Inevitably, some customers lose money and faith in the process. So how can you get the most out of a dating agency? The first step is to look for one that is a member of a self-regulating trade association, such as the Association of British Introduction Agencies ABIA.
Its code of conduct, which has been welcomed by the Office of Fair Trading, includes protection for the customers of agencies which shut down suddenly: Balfour says the following questions may also help potential "Drawing down the moon hookup reviews" to choose the company most likely to fulfil their needs:. Operators of these often quote the total franchise membership rather than that of their own business. Balfour says many clients like to see details of other members without having their own viewed first, although they soon realise everyone is in the same boat.
If you find the idea of a one-to-one introduction too intimidating, several new agencies offer the chance to share the occasion. There are dinners, or speed-dating where you spend a couple of minutes with one person to make a superficial, physical assessment before moving to the next. Cash readers have reviewed these services opposite. If this all sounds too mercenary to end in romance, there are still plenty of cheap or free services.
The Observer's Soulmates adverts have a good success record - see opposite for the way one reader got on. Or you can try free internet services, such as www. Check that the agency is a member of the ABIA Be sensible - meet up for a quick drink or cup of coffee rather than committing to a long evening. Give out your address or telephone number until you feel confident about the person you are dating.
Balfour says the following questions may also help potential customers to choose the company most likely to fulfil their needs: Rules of engagement Do: Ask how many introductions you can reasonably expect within your selected age range and area. Persevere with your membership - doesn't happen overnight.
Treat others as you would like to be treated - be polite but honest. Join an agency using a PO Box number.
Join an agency using a premium rate telephone number. Join an agency that refuses to give details of fees on the phone or in their literature.