I n the far-flung misty past, being a man was a simple thing. You left school, got a job, got married, had children, drank heavily, played golf, had an aborted affair, never spoke about your feelings under any circumstances, and died of a heart attack aged These days, things are different.
I am a feminist. I
Como ser metrosexual hombre also a man. I care passionately about feminism, but I also want to know what it means to be a man inand that can feel like a difficult subject to address. Each word defines an instance of men using their privilege — intentionally or otherwise — in a manner that is patronising or obnoxious.
At their best, such terms can be used to highlight the boorish behaviour of self-important or oblivious men. Conversations about male behaviour feel necessary because, on the whole, men feel lost.
It feels as if, as the traditional ideals of the 20th-century man — strong, stoic, repressed — begin to fade away, nothing has stepped in to replace them.
A brief survey of prominent contemporary male figures — both fictional and non — on film, TV and the internet offers extremely mixed results. Whom should we aspire to be like? Christian Greythe unpleasant, controlling billionaire with a penchant for rough sex and dubious attitudes towards consent? The impossibly perfect ultra-dad that David Beckham has become since his latest firmware upgrade? The resurgent Dapper
Como ser metrosexual hombrewith his bantz-errific lad drivel?
The bewildered, incredulous everyman played by Louis CK in Louie? He seems like a nice dude, determined to do the decent thing Como ser metrosexual hombre trying circumstances.
I gradually moved away from wrestling full time, but I retained my fascination with gym culture and the male identity — which is what led me to Mark Simpson. He has been one of our most prescient commentators on the male condition for some time. The sporno is as fixated with whey protein, creatine and fat-strippers the hyphen there is crucial as he is with clothes and grooming. But it "Como ser metrosexual hombre" not be. In recent months a new potential successor has emerged: The ultimate lumbersexual pin-up is Ron Swansonthe meat-powered, post-ironic male throwback from Parks and Recreationand its mecca is almost certainly a shop on the Hackney Road called Barn the Spoon, which is run by a bloke who whittles spoons by hand from foraged wood and once lived in a forest full time.
Young men have given up on the dream of the job-for-life, house, kids, Alsatian and quadruple gold-plated pension, and for older men this once-inevitable set of circumstances appears increasingly shaky. A report by the Office of National Statistics, published last month, shows that male suicide rates are at their highest since and have increased steadily since the recession of ; in England and Wales, men are more than three times as likely to kill themselves than women.
Charities such as CalmMutedSane and the Movember Foundation exist to fight the stigma surrounding depression and mental health, but men remain far less likely to talk to someone about their feelings be it a professional or their mates than women.
So perhaps this, above any antiquated notion of manliness, is what we need to address. Both the gym and the faux woodsmen are acting on the same impulse: Personally, I think that a fundamental change in masculine values is just the flip side of equality.
Just as men must fight for, support and celebrate female progress — with initiatives such as HeForShelaunched last year — we must help one another as we enter the next stage of our cultural evolution.
If we do, maybe our personal masculine crises will give way to personal masculine identities all of our own.
What have we got to lose by trying this? Nothing but our ever-increasing sense of worthlessness. Topics Gender The Observer. Men's fashion David Beckham Feminism features.