Originally published in April Part I Part II. Sisters would voluntarily tell me I should change my dress style, personality and passion for activism in order not to scare them away.
Since when was our purpose in life marriage? Nevertheless, with marriage being such a huge concern for our community, many face the temptation to change who they are and their core values for the sake of finding a spouse. Those are amongst the Names of Allah! Every time we glance up and see someone we wish we could be with and then turn away, in that moment we can fervently ask Allah swt to bless us with a spouse who will be the sweetness of our eyes.
How could Allah, The Responder, possibly not accept the supplication of His adamant worshipper who is painfully struggling to maintain his or her modesty and guard his or her chastity? Who is asking something of Me Hook up with allah I may give it him? Who is asking forgiveness of Me that I may forgive him? Will that reward be in the form of an amazing spouse and an amazing marriage? Perhaps it may and perhaps it may not.
Thus, we must know that if "Hook up with allah" hook up with Allah, we can trust that He will Hook up with allah us up with whatever is best, whether it be an answer to exactly what we are asking for or something better than that for us. Allah got our backs! Who better to trust our future with than the One Who already knows it? Easier said than done? But what have we got to lose? But let us not forget that the One Who will facilitate the outcome should be on our minds, in our hearts and worshipped through our actions in more passionate, fervent ways than the time and effort we justifiably spend searching for our better halves.
I respond to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me.
Of course Allah is listening and He will undoubtedly answer us. So many times sisters are encouraged to live life in the pursuit of marriage-having to put everything on hold and change their ways so that they meet the perfect image.
May Allah reward you. These are some very much needed words for youth like myself.
Just at the when I needed something like this the most. Jazak Allah 5ayr for the Hook up with allah words, please keep it up!!! What really stroke my mind while reading is the verse in surat al-Dhariyat: I created Jin and mankind but to worship Me. However, we always forget the mission for which we mainly came to existence to engage in troubles searching for our destined provision.
I feel as if these articles are especially written for me, to provide me with the "Hook up with allah" needed guidance. Thank you very much for it! May Allah reward you Maryam for saying what needs to Hook up with allah heard, and living it!
May Allah increase you and strengthen you always! Even looking at this from a perspective not fully including intending to please Allah swt, the spouse I would like are the people that dress modestly and are active in the dawah, not the sisters dressing flashy and trying to court guys at every event. Consequently, its a win-win situation, because you get the better reward, the reward of Allah swt, and the reward of a spouse who is better. The Messenger of God was delivering a sermon.
Barek Allah feeki for addressing this issue! Unfortunately, sisters are encouraging single sisters to change their good characteristics to in order to score a husband, it is so disappointing and annoying! Verily, I love such and such a person, so love him! And then Allah places pleasure in the hearts of the people towards this person! AA Ahmed Faqih, You made me cry.
Timely reference from the beautiful garden of ahadeeth. Mashallah sister, good job and thanks for sharing it with us, may ALLAH reward you for this and give us the strength to share it with other.
MashaAllah what insightful words of naseeha,coming from someone so young! This article gives me hope that Allah swt will provide them with righteous and believing spouses without putting themselves on display,InshaAllah. I do very much admire the sentiment in this article, but what troubles me is the difference between the theory that is espoused and the reality within the community. By what you write it appears that anyone who turns to Allah with a pure heart on this matter will be rewarded with a suitable husband, i.
Yet, there are many, many people all over the world who have indeed done this and have asked Allah for a suitable loving husband, someone who is the "Hook up with allah" of their eyes, yet have received a tyrant in response.
There are many people who have made this sincere supplication yet have received a husband who fails, who is violent, who is unfaithful, unloving and the bane of their existence. How is this a suitable reward for someone who supplicates sincerely to Allah? I would like to see a response to this from someone knowledgeable. Deep down I know that response to a supplication can come in many forms. And Allah SWT tests people in their own ways. If someone can bridge the gap between this and the reality Celephais talks about it would be Hook up with allah. Maybe that person could have married someone worse.
They just need to be patient, and have trust in Allah.
Allah will provide even better for them in the akhirah. We are there for them. WHat I mean in that sometimes the presence of one praying woman is the thing needed to tip the scales in a very dark life. I only know that it happens.
I know a man who will swear to you that the time his wife Hook up with allah in supplication in the middle of the night is the only thing that saved him from Hook up with allah addiction. Did she deserve him? Did he deserve her? But in the end I know that Allah swta will reward her. I wish the world could read your idea. I wish it were posted on the older generations forehead. Perhaps, some time ago I might have agreed with the author, but nowadays I am just fed up with the construct of modesty and bashful behavior.
A while back there was this awareness campaign for breast cancer on Facebook. Women were posting the colors of their bras. But the outcry from some people was just beyond horrible. I kept a record of it: I am tired of women being told to be modest, and bashful, and quiet and all that.
Why does no one tell women to lead armies like Ayesha? Why are women not told to question authority like Hafsa? Why is "Hook up with allah" never mentioned?
Tell the women to be assertive, to stand up for themselves, to demand justice and equality. An empowered woman is a thousand times more beautiful than a submissive one. Is not a woman empowered by being submissive to her Creator?
The hijab, something that is marketed as being an image of oppression in in much of the western world…. Especially here where so much emphasis is placed on the physical, practicing Muslim women refuse to be judged soley on that basis. Ahlil Kitaab have already conformed to this secularist push for the watering down of Religion. Because these were also qualities of our Prophet saw. He was a gentle Prophet, but he was a Lion when the circumstances called for it.
As his follwers, I hope that we can emulate that example…. I agree with you completely. It was about revamping our relationship Hook up with allah Allah and seeking to change only to please Him instead of someone else just for the sake of getting married. I think sometimes we forget that we rely on Allah only for a good spouse. I remember one advice, when you want to find a spouse, correct your relationship with Allah first. The article is amazing if it put into practice.
Women should be empowered to to demand justice and and their rights. Women too are warriors of Islam, they are not just doormats for people to wipe thier feet on.
May Allah[swt] bless you and your family with highest level in jannah, May Allah protect you,Ameen. Every time you glance up and see someone you wish you could be with, turn away and in that moment ask Allah to bless you with a spouse who will be the sweetness of your eyes.