Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. Then, we also want to work to see if we can explore their psychological Hookup a player relationships with narcissists meaning, which is how they see the world, how they see themselves in it, how they understand their craft and people in it.
Now, this conversation is with Wendy Behary. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live and deal with them on a regular basis. She is the author of Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed.
Wendy dives into why so many elite performers have these tendencies and how we can be more effective with living and working with them. Wendy, how are you doing? Thank you for spending the time with us to talk about a concept that is relevant today in modern times and really relevant in the world that I spend a lot of time in, which is elite sport and elite performance.
Working as a clinician many years ago, a psychotherapist, I found myself meeting individuals who could push my buttons like no other. These were basically people who when I was in their presence, something about their responses, their reactions, their style would have me finding myself as if in a time warp state where I would be saying yes when I want to say no.
I just felt all of my own life themes getting reactivated and was really curious about this population, this particular population who could trigger me and I wanted to investigate it more thoroughly.
Try to understand what happens inside of us when we are confronted with people with narcissism, and began to work alongside my mentor in developing an approach that could be effective at helping them and helping others who are dealing with them. Is it a problem to the person or is it just a problem to people that they impact?
Because we really do need others to be able to explore our potential. Is that close to how you would move it outside of a technical, psychological disorder, Mumbo Jumbo jargon, into something that is more applied?
Part of the reason is because so much of their interest is focused on performance and success and achievement and outcome and being extraordinary and winning and competing in whatever game of life they are playing.