College relationships are complicated. Arguably the most complicated of all, however, are hookups. At the time of getting into a no-strings attached relationship, you probably thought that the idea sounded fun and easy.
Once you realize that your life has not become a romantic comedy, though, you might change your mind. Even asking when the last time the sheets were washed — something you seriously want to know — can seem intimidating.
Here are a few things we want to have the courage to say — and should! Wade explains, not defining the relationship can cause awkward issues later on.
I told him no, and then we stopped hooking up. Sit down and have the talk.
Despite our best attempts at keeping emotions out of the way, the fact is that sex is intimate, and it can be harder than we think to not get attached. Maybe you originally thought you wanted a carefree, no-strings-attached relationship. Wade, hookup buddies are shy about telling their partners want they want in bed. Imagine what it would be like if we all stopped playing this repetitive game: Find out what your cutie likes and clue him or her into what you want.
No one wants to brush her teeth with her finger at 2 a.
This one is a kicker, and according to Dr. Unfortunately for those of us who like to sweep things under the rug, Dr. Lieberman says that the worst thing you can do is ignore it — even if it would make your life easier.
Out of all the things we wish we could say, this one is probably the scariest. Maybe he or she will feel the same way. The funny thing about this one is that it should be completely obvious. The worst betrayal of a hookup buddy would be to look at the relationship — and you — in a degrading way.
Most likely, your relationship will not be a secret. Even more likely, it will draw a lot of questions from your social circles. The only thing that matters is that both you and your partner feel respected in whatever agreement you have worked out, our experts agree.
However, being stuck in the middle of two love interests is actually a seriously stressful situation — especially if one of them is your current hookup buddy.