Last night, I found an old hat of his that he'd worn when we were on holiday a few years back and all the pain and loss came flooding back. Four months is a very short time indeed to expect yourself to have recovered from the death of your husband. Your pain and grief are still very raw and you need this time to grieve and come to terms with your loss.
It is generally accepted that it takes around two years to recover from a close bereavement but, in truth, the feelings of sadness may never truly go away, and your life won't ever be the same. That doesn't mean, though, that you will never be happy again or that you won't find a new focus for your life. In time the pain will feel less acute and memories like that old hat may evoke a sad smile rather than bitter tears. You don't say whether or not you're getting any support from friends and family, but do reach out to other people — most will be struggling to know what to say but want to be asked.
There are all kinds of organisations that can help you too, especially when the pain feels unbearable and it's late and you don't want to call a friend. The Samaritans are there for people who feel desperate, for example, and their number is free to call from both landlines and mobiles around the clock, every single day
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Do contact Cruse Bereavement Care cruse. Be kind to yourself and give yourself all the time you need, but please don't expect to "get over" this within a short period. Everyone is different but talking to someone — be it a friend, someone on a helpline or a counsellor — really will help you ease your pain, even if only a little. We've been together for nine years but since our youngest was born I miss my husband who died year, our relationship has been on the rocks and, because of a traumatic delivery, I'm not able to be intimate very often.
He doesn't understand our daughter's condition and shouts at her when she gets things wrong, so she's scared of him. He's told me he has cancer symptoms but hasn't seen a doctor and he I miss my husband who died to kill himself all the time.
I've been studying part-time for a degree and
I miss my husband who died a brilliant job offer if I go full-time for the next year, but he wants me to give it up because he says I don't make time for him.
It's making me very depressed and I've told him how I feel but it falls on deaf ears, even though I constantly reassure him that I love him and won't leave him, but he won't change anything.