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I am Atheist and I met some times ago a woman who I would say is passionately Christian. We have developed very strong feelings towards each other.
But she says that she cannot consider a relationship with me because I am not Christian. I actually have no intention to argue with her and try to change her mind and I Believer and nonbeliever relationships sadly respecting her choice. But I am really committed to understand her choice through the Scriptures. I read and modestly study the bible to find some answers and I would to invite you to help me understand or at least give me some insights.
First, it does not seem to me that in the bible, the concept of a marriage between a believer and a nonbeliever is ruled out. If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
But at the same time, it does not seem to be recommended 2 Corinthians 6: However, the nonbeliever may be changed, but I understand that might be a burden for the believer to live with this hope, a burden that he might not accept to Believer and nonbeliever relationships on, 1 Peter 3: Second, I understand that marriage is a sacred vow and there are many verses related to it as well as the role of the husband and the wife.
I have not read anything that I am not ready to commit to with all my heart. Of course, as a nonbeliever, the only thing I would not be able to provide is spiritual guidance but maybe the more fundamental problem is that as a nonbeliever, I cannot have Christ as role model and therefore any vow I could commit to would have no value?
And is it naive to think that love is what is the drive?
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Take comfort in the fact that you're better off. Trust me, you don't want Believer and nonbeliever relationships relationship with any Christian. Dec 29, 3. I'm not sure what your specific questions are, but I will try and answer from what I've seen with friends. I have some friends in some unequally yoked relationships and marriages and some are strained because of it and some make it work.
I suppose it depends on how much each party is willing to compromise. My closest friends husband is an atheist, but he respects her beliefs and even goes to church with her and their children. The children are aware that daddy is a non-believer and that mommy is The couples that I know that are strained seem to not agree or meet halfway on any subject. I do think those issues lie much deeper than religious or non-religious beliefs tho Dec 29, 4. Jan 2, 5. A Christian marriage is a covenant between a man, a woman and God.
The commitment the man and woman make is to God. For someone who has a passionate love for God, to go through life without a spiritual friend in their choice of husband or wife would be terribly lonely. Believing married couples can pray together, each helping the other to grow. They can walk together on the same spiritual journey. To be without that would be a barren marriage. But for a Christian, God the one who is best at choosing who marries whom.
Jan 8, 6. As a non-Christian you could not be the spiritual head of the family that your girlfriend would deserve if she were to ever marry you. There are reasons why the scriptures caution Christians concerning being yoked in marriage to non-Christians and one reason is because it is all too easy for the Christian to begin straying from the faith.
A Christian would not want that to happen for the sake of love because the love for God goes deeper. Jan 9, 7. Jan 9, 8. Jan 9, 9. Jan 9, Believer and nonbeliever relationships 10, Jan 13, I think when we are younger we believe that marriage is like two people loving each other so much that they choose to spend the rest of their lives in the same boat; them against the world!
When you're young, you believe that it's possible to know where you'll be along this journey of life five years from now, twenty, fifty The truth is that none of us can ever really know. The person I am today is entirely different than both the person who I was and the person who I thought I'd be when I was twenty. So how do you ever know that you can "love" someone for the rest of your life, as husbands are instructed to do in the bible?
Your wife is on her own journey. Will have her own struggles and undergo her own changes in her own timing. What if the person she is 20 years from now, is not the same person she is today? What if you're capable of loving the person she becomes?
Is it then okay to break your vow? To a Christian, marriage is not like two people in the same boat, struggling against the world together. It's rather more like two people in their own boats, lost at sea a stormy night, struggling desperately to find one and other.
The look for each other, but the fog is to thick to see; call to each other, but the din of the storm to loud to hear; they each row their boats frantically hoping to cross paths, but don't even know if they are moving toward or away from each other. The lightning flashes and you think you catch a glimpse of her; "Is that her?
She seems so far. Then, through the fog, you see a light from a distant lighthouse, dim and distant at first, but steady, immovable.
It had seemed as if the light was spinning around you before you realized that it was actually your own boat spinning aimlessly at sea. You resolve that no matter what, no matter how bad the storm, no matter how rough the waves, no matter how hard the wind attempts to push you backward, no matter how frightening the journey becomes, that you will continue to row your boat toward the light and you know, know in your heart, that no matter what, your wife will always choose do the same.
Believer and nonbeliever relationships see in this way it
Believer and nonbeliever relationships matter how far apart your boats have become, as long as you each move toward the light you're also moving toward each other.
God is the third person in every Christian marriage. He is the fixed, immovable point toward which you always know the other is moving. Without him there cannot be trust, not real trust anyway. Not to a Christian. My friend, without that, I'm not sure that any of us could advise you to enter into a lifelong commitment.
It's really not fair to either of you. Because even if you both can remain tolerant, even respectful of each other's faith systems, what happens eight years from now when you become friends at work with that girl who thinks just like you do and "Believer and nonbeliever relationships" "just so nice to not have to constantly be on your guard against saying something offensive", or she becomes friends at church with a newly saved Christian, on fire for God, and fully understanding why she chooses to devotes every Wednesday night at bible study, Saturday afternoon at her Women's group and Sunday morning for Sunday school and worship and it would "just be so nice to not sit alone in church" or even once not have one of the old ladies not ask if "the Lord has Believer and nonbeliever relationships to soften your husband's heart" yet?