Validation is particularly important for emotionally sensitive people. So if you love or care about or interact with someone who is emotionally sensitive, using validation can help build your relationship or help communication go more smoothly. Remember the six levels of validation developed by Dr.
Linehan see previous post on Understanding the Levels of Validation? Understanding the levels may be easy. Putting them into practice is often more difficult.
Practice is the key to making validation a natural part of the way you communicate.
Your best friend is upset because her husband cut up her credit card. How do you validate her? Remember to use the highest possible level. Think of your answer before you read further! Probably Level 2 is the highest level you could use. Level 5, normalizing, would not work because most people would agree his response was reasonable and not be upset in that situation.
There is nothing to make her response more understandable in terms of her history, so Level 4 is not possible. Jesse tells you she quit her job. She quit because her boss loudly criticized her in front of other people.
What level of validation do you use?
Level 6 or Level 5 might work in this situation. I would have done the same thing. Remember, always use the highest level possible.
Joanna calls you and talks about having urges to overeat. What level of validation can you use? Level 3 would be a good choice.