Do I even make an effort to care about this guy anymore? I think you should take it for what it is: Guys are completely content with a relationship being what it is. But entertaining the thought of starting a long-distance
Friends with benefits for years does sound like a bad idea.
Most cases where a new relationship starts up, a friendship changes for better or worseor a friendship turns into a relationship, are often preceded by some sort of life change.
My guess is that one or both of you are at some kind of crossroad in your lives. There is nothing wrong with you two having a great friendship and having it just be that with or without benefits.