Please Log in or Create an account to join the conversation. Wife cheated, moved out, says she loves other man. Start Prev 1 2 3 Next End 1 2 3. I am in a screwed up situation Wife moved in with another man hate it. My wife told me two months ago she wanted out of our 8 year marriage
Wife moved in with another man not in love with me any longer.
We have two kids and she moved out of the home after I told her she needed to leave if she was so unhappy. We share custody of the kids now going back and forth almost daily. Wife has rented a home in same town and is only 5 minutes away.
I couldn't believe what she was saying, telling me she didn't love me anymore, and wanted out. I finally figured out how to get into her cell phone records. She has refused to let me see her phone for over a year, and has put a passcode on it. The phone records were astounding! She has been in constant contact with this guy for well over a year, even called him while we were on a getaway trip romantic trip for just us last year.
She wouldn't fess up to anything right away, said he is a friend, but they have kissed. She says she is very connected to him and is in love with him. Said they were good friends before becoming involved emotionally. It all floored me. I suppose to some degree that is true. Plus she bitches about me smoking all the time. Either way, I don't think those are good reasons for cheating on me. Since she moved out she said she still keeps in touch with him all the time and is still in love with him.
She said she needs her "space" away from me, I think she is still screwing him. She finally fessed up to having sex with him. But the story doesn't seem to ever end, I feel like she is not being honest and telling me all the facts about how long and what they have done. I think she has been screwing him a lot long than she says, the phone records late at night indicate a lot of communication with this guy.
She did confirm she would always hookup with him when she was suppose to be out with girlfriends, this happened a lot. I am in a rage and want to call this guy and stomp on him. But the worst is that she just told me he wasn't the first.
She had sex with three other guys, one of those incidents was a the other supposedly a one night stand.
That all happened years ago before we were married, but were in a committed relationship with our new baby. Since she said she woudn't stop seeing him I filed for divorce and am asking for full custody.
After a few weeks she broke down and said she would consider moving back home and working on our marriage. I still filed, scared the crap out of her. She counter-filed and plans to fight me.
She is a good mother so I doubt I would get full custody but my lawyer told me this was a good move to show her I mean business. At the same time, I'm confused about her saying she wants to try and work out thins with me, but won't move back into our home.
She said she broke it off with this other guy, but I don't know if Wife moved in with another man trust her yet, there are so many calls and texts on her old cell acccount that are not explained. She got a new phone right after I got into her other account and I do not have access to the new account and she locks her phone. I am confused, not sure if I work on the marriage or just divorce.
I agreed to marriage counseling. She comes by more often and has dinner, does good mother stuff with the kids and has them days a week at her place. I think she might just be saying she will come back for the kids, not sure if she wants to come back for me. We kissed a few times but its forced, no passion. She refuses to have sex with me and shows zero interest in any passion. I don't know what to do.
Wife moved in with another man Some of my friends told me to dump her and move on, especially since she said she loves this guy and has cheated on me before.
Don't want to have her back if she only coming back for kids. But I am lonely, no sex, feel awful and can't cope. This site is helpful, but only to see how messed up marriages are. Replied by jnj express on topic Wife cheated, moved out, says she loves other man. IMHOyou should cut the intimacy, and proceed on with the D. Replied by reconciliar1 on topic Wife cheated, moved out, says she loves other man.
Well that already sucks to high heaven, she has refused to have sex with me since this past summer. Claims she hates kissing me, says I smell like an ashtray. I do brush all the time. About two weeks ago she said they broke up and she wanted to fix things with me.
I sort of believed her, still not trusting at that point though. I suspected she was still in contact. Well, two nights ago she said she wanted to go out to gym for some new class, seemed fishy so I immediately asked for her phone. She refused to hand over her cell so I called her out on it. She did let me see her text messages, but she held it in her hand and flipped through them quickly. Then she did fess up and tell me she was texting him cuz they had to work things out and end it more slowly.
I was pissed as hell, called her all kinds of names and she left, took the kids and went to her place. Then last night after Thanksgiving dinner I brought it up again and she admitted she had been in constant contact with him even though they supposedly broke up!
She also said she was still in love with him. We have had a rocky road of many fights with discussions of divorce over the past years.
Two years ago a big one where we both lashed out at each other. She has discussed how unhappy she is in our marriage quite a bit over the past year.
I guess its not new, but when you find out about the cheating its a shock.
She claims I'm emotionally disconnected from her. I don't know how to fix that, I didn't know she was so unhappy, she says I lack any emotional awareness and only care about her when I want sex.